Our attitudes towards rape accusations

By Anonymous -
It is heart breaking to realize even in 2014, people still have no idea what rape is. Roxane Gay believes it's because we "can’t fathom rape as a thing that an otherwise normal-seeming person would ever do."

Rape IS NOT ABOUT SEX! It is not even forceful sex. Rape is about power, dominance, dehumanization, etc.

Even though the definition of rape was amended a decade ago, we still immediately assume rape must be forceful and must incur bodily harm. Even sadder that most survivors actually believe this and have to go through a process of accepting that they were raped, then have to go through the emotional process of putting their lives together after such discovery, to pointing a finger at their rapist. To assume that people have to do this concurrently, and should they not, it be an indication of a lie, I have no words for. I have news for you. You don't get to decide someone's emotional process. It's not yours to decide!

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